{VIDEO} Does Your Communication Have Your Kids Hearing Lies or TRUTH?

It may surprise you to know that your everyday {even best intention loving} communication you’re having with your kids, may be coming across to them completely different than you realize… believing lies about themselves.

And when these unintentional lies are unknowingly left to get built upon, because as a family you don’t even know that you may need to have a discussion about the truth, can create destructive turmoil and patterns within themselves.

I’ve been an intentional, dedicated, loving MOM (Mentor of Magnificence as I call it) for 12 years now (13 if you include gestation time on the inside world)…

and everyday has been a completely out of this world adventure – learning about myself – being accountable for my actions – and always pushing what I thought were my limits to improve.

Yet I just discovered today… that regardless of how open, honest and effective I believe my communication with my awesome kiddos has been and continues to get better…

they are still interpreting what I say in ways that are detrimental to their self esteem and inner empowerment.

And with just the slightest tweak to what you’re doing now… you can completely alter the effectiveness of your communication and the course of their understanding of themselves.

And this is precisely the most important reason why as parents, Darsana and I thank God, are in agreement that this type of life learning is far more valuable and critical to guiding and nurturing our kiddos on their path…

and why people call us RADICAL!

So today, Darsana was inspired with a really simple, yet powerful LIFEschool lesson about BELIEFS… how we form them and how they shape us… for the good, bad and indifferent.

Below is what we referenced in class and then used examples of real life situations that we had most recently experienced individually with both of them.

So instead of BELIEFS we recreated it to:

Be Live VS. Be Lie

Be Live = Be Your Self and Live

Be Lie = Be a Lie and Destroy Your Self

Inaccurate Beliefs

1. How other people react to me determines who I am –> Self Destruction

2. If my parents are telling me I did something unloving – that means I’m not a loving person or there is something wrong with me –> Self Guilt

3. If my parents are pushing me to be or do more that means I am not good enough –> Self Invalidation

4. If my parents are upset/angry with something I’ve done that means I am not a good person –> Self Hatred

5. If my parents are teaching me something that means I am not smart/intelligent –> Self Doubt (Insecurity)

6. If my parents are telling me something about me that means they are criticizing me –> Self Critical

7. If my patents are asking me to do something right now that means my needs are not important/I’m not important –> Self Victimization

So I asked my son, Jivani, “When mama gets upset with something you’ve done… what do you hear or interpret when I say this?”

…And his response shocked me to the core… I was seriously astounded!!!

We all cried over this one!!!

Watch this video to find out what was really happening in our communication…

I’m so grateful that this lesson was inspired today… because now our kiddos do not have to go another moment misinterpreting our communication in ways that do not uplift, encourage, empower and inspire them.

And I’m honored that they feel safe and trust us enough to be vulnerable and share so that we can grow together.

This moment forever changed our family communication!!!

P.S. Jivani and Jamaili agreed to share their notes from class… so you can see on their charts the LIE they were telling themselves and the new TRUTH understanding they can now replace it with, so they can practice remaining in their power.

This way they hear the communication for what it is… that their choices and actions need adjustment… not that it means somehting about them.

Jivani’s Chart

Jamaili’s Chart

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